Hi guys. My name is Carter. I’m a ninteen-year-old psychology and creative writing student at Michigan State University, and I desperately need your help.
About a year ago, I was disowned by my family after coming out as gay and genderqueer. I have been supporting myself ever since. I get by on scholarships, and the money I get from the school is the only thing I have to live on.
I’m currently battling several mental illnesses. I have bipolar disorder, PTSD, borderline personality disorder, and awful anxiety. Because of these and my extremely bad depression, I have an emotional support animal named Winnie. She’s one of the main reasons I’m alive right now. I was supposed to be allowed to have her in the dorms, but my RA didn’t like her and housing was constantly threatening to kick her out.
My roommate had been giving me the cold shoulder ever since I came out, and not having any space of my own was exacerbating my anxiety. For my own mental and physical health, I had to get an apartment off campus and have been living there for the past few months.
I was counting on using the money I got back from housing to live on during the summer, but because of some fine print, I am not going to get that money. This means I will have no money to live on during the summer.
I am disabled and unable to work, but the money from disability will take months to come through, and even then it’s not guaranteed that my application will be accepted. I tried to work over the summer last year, and was in and out of the hospital more than once a month for a succession of suicide attempts.
I was in the hospital again about a month ago, and my doctor said I should completely stop working and withdraw from classes. I’m having to work a few hours a week for food money, but the grant my job is from runs out at the end of April, and I won’t be able to find another job that’s so accepting of my mental issues.
As of now I only have enough money to make rent up until May, and I’ll probably run out of food money around June. So I am asking you guys for help. If you could donate even a couple it would help. Even if you can’t donate, it would mean a lot to me if you could signal boost. I am desperate and out of options.
I don’t have anyone else to turn to, since my abusive family has disowned me and cut off all financial ties to me, so I’m turning to you guys for help. I don’t have much to offer in exchange, but I can do writing commissions or make bracelets. I hate having to ask for help, but I don’t know what else to do at this point.
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Winnie says thank you for reading!
I’m really sorry for being a pain in the ass and reblogging this, but I just don’t have any money… I can’t ask my family for money because the only ones with money were horrifically physically, verbally, and emotionally abusive. I’ve finally gotten out, but now I’m broke and alone. So this is my only hope…
If you guys even each gave two bucks, I’d have enough money to live on. I’m sorry for asking so much, but it’s the only chance I have.
Different family systems as a societal norm
There are some very good reasons for the current common family system that exists especially in the West (one mother and one father living together with whatever set of biological they have). That doesn’t mean that, especially in science fiction and fantasy, these are the only types of societal-normal family structures that can exist.
Multiple generation families. This exists today, especially in places like China and India, where there is a strong amount of respect and due paid to elders. This makes sense really in two different types of populations. The first is where elders are viewed as being venerable and wise. If there is a view of elders being matriarchs/patriarchs, they will probably continue to live with their children. This also make sense in communities where there are no good governmental or societal structures set up to take care of retired people or people who cannot take care of themselves. In countries such as the United States now, this is often not as necessary, mainly given programs such as Medicare and Medicaid and Social Security which help take care of the older generations. There are also nursing homes and Alzheimer’s homes for people who cannot live by themselves.
Two-women families. This refers not to societies where there is a small percentage of families that consist of two women (i.e. the proportion of homosexual or bisexual women in the current population), but instead to societies where the societal norm is for children to be raised by sets of two women. This might happen in a population that not only has significantly low populations of men but also have gotten to the point technologically when they can produce children without men (which can be done using bone marrow). This could be because of things like societal reasons for shunning men or because of some sort of fatal or impotent-creating disease that that is x-chromosome-based. This could also be because of some sort of tradition that assumes that men are not suited for child-rearing.
Two-men families. This refers to the same thing as is described above, except for men instead of women. This might happen primarily either if women are viewed as being not good enough for child rearing (dirty, somehow, or maybe not intelligent enough) or if women are viewed as being above child rearing. If women have most of the power and control in the society, they may force the men to raise the children so they can rule the country.
Communal female-only families. This could have similar reasoning behind the two-women families, thought there are other reasons. One possible reason is that heritage is not regarded as being important, with women being viewed as the main people who should raise children. This may happen, as mentioned above (though conversely) because the men have most of the power and believe that women should raise the children. If the society is especially poor and people cannot raise children without pooling resources, communal families may also show up (which applies to all three types of communal families).
Communal male-only families. Along with the reasons mentioned above, this may happen in war-based societies when men are training to fight from a young age. If that is the case, in all likelihood, only the boys are raised by men, and the girls may be being raised, either communally or otherwise, by their mothers.
Communal bi-gendered families. This would pretty much only happen if heritage isn’t cared about. This isn’t referring to any tight-knit communities, but instead only to communities where parents aren’t distinguished and everyone raises everyone equally. There might be monogamous relationships or their might not be. This doesn’t have to the same as one big orgy. One possible issue with this is that, if the entire society is based on this, there might be incest issues.
Polygamy with one man and multiple women. This could only happen if the religion of the culture doesn’t care about monogamy. This makes sense mainly is men hold the majority of the power. If men are the only people who can make money, this is more likely to happen. In this case, men with more money and power would likely have more wives. The man could have more or less of a role in raising the children.
Polygamy with one woman and multiple men. This would pretty much only make sense in a society where both there is exceedingly low infant mortality and where women have a lot of power. This is mostly because, biologically, this isn’t a great model. This would probably lead to or be related to matrilineal lineage being regarded higher than patrilineal lineage.
Polygamy with multiple men and women. This can also only happen in a society where paternal heritage doesn’t matter. This is different from communal families because in this care there are sexual and/or romantic relationships between all people in the group.
Non-biological-parental children-raising systems. This would be a case where children aren’t raised by their parents. This can be where everyone is a test-tube baby or where people have sex and then give up their children to some sort of matching system. The people who raise the children could be either monogamous partners or non-monogamous partners. It could also be robots who raise the children if technology is at that level.
Sexual partnerships. This (though it could appear in different forms) would involve people having sexual relationships with others without the purpose of having children or settling down. These could be romantic as well as sexual, but would include sex. This would only exist in a society where there is no special thought put on whether someone is sexually promiscuous. Slurs like “slut” would probably not exist because it is common for people to have sex without worrying about monogamy or about doing it for children.
Romantic partnerships and sexual partnerships. This would be a way of having a sort of dual monogamy (though it could go in other directions). A person could have a romantic partner and a sexual partner, each of whom they are monogamous with (or not, depending on the society). Depending on the society, there might be people who are specific sexual partners with others (a different form of prostitution that would probably not be looked down upon).
Harem-based families. These would be families where there are a large number of women who all have sex with one man and then probably raise the children communally. This would be similar to communal all-female families, but where the children all have the same biological father.
There are other types of structures and other causes or results of these structures. The important thing to remember is that your story shouldn’t just be a story about how bad this is and how good our current structure is. Also be careful about just writing a cautionary tale about homosexuality (or heterosexuality). Do it justice, make it interesting, and make it make sense in the story. It won’t do any good to just stick it in a culture like ours and pretend it works.
i don’t have proper examples but i am actually panicking slightly and we are in a pretty desperate situation, we need funds to move as soon as possible and every little bit helps
these will probably be done similar to the busts i’ve been doing recently and i’m willing to do them for $30 USD, via paypal, paid upfront (like, as soon as you send me refs). i am going to finish them as quickly as possible, but please keep in mind things are stressful and there may be a slight wait.
i will draw literally nearly anything, furries or humans or things that look like they’re kinda human, all races, all body types, any sex any gender. i am okay with nudity, and virtually all clothing types! i’m bad at robots, but i will try, for you, my lovely commissioner. things like wings, extra limbs, complicated tattoos/markings, etc., may warrant extra costs, but i will inform you before you pay so you do have the chance to back out if it’s over your budget.
you can find my art tag here, recent busts are good examples of what these will kinda be like! i’m also willing to discuss prices on any other type of commission, just drop me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org with your idea and i can get you a quote.
signal boosting is very much appreciated, as we could really use all the help we can get right now!
want to help, but don’t want these? we also have a gofundme currently running!
hey, i’m still open for a couple more of these! i WILL BE SLOW ON THEM, you may be waiting two+ weeks, but if you are interested please drop me an email!
and thank you everyone who has signal boosted, said some kind words, or otherwise offered help and reassurance. you guys are amazing!